My Psychotherapist
Had
Passed to the History
January 5, 1995.
When I woke up, Anka vom Haus Klem didnt respire anymore. I felt what everybody feels when loses a beloved being. My first desire was human: writing an article telling how I suffered because of her disappearance. But it wouldnt get any substratum and would be against everything that she taught me.
This text shall contain all that, GOOD and POSITIVE; Anka let to the humanity. She was a genius!
She posed, patiently, with a dumbbell in her mouth, at a photographic studio, full of reflectors, with a Maritaca walking on her head, till we can take a Zecas picture (Maritaca) on the dumbbell and in front of the camera: it is the books COVER PAGE entitled Training Without Punishment.
Anka conquered the Dog Show Judges with her sympathetic bark during her presentation on ring: she was a Great Champion.
Anka did training exhibitions enchanting the kids and impassioning their parents: she used to bark to ask for things, she used to take kids on her back for a walk, she used to play with the children while their parents were busy, and take care of them. Everybody wants a dog like her: she was a Great Hostess.
At the home intimacy, Anka participated at all of our parties, meetings, adventures and experiences; she was an unequaled companion at the hardness moments, since the breakfast to the good night.
The great lesson of life Anka makes me to understand that a dog never do wrong things.
It was taught me by the most logical way that a human being cant ratiocinate: the concept of wrong thing was created by mankind, so if a dog does something that WE consider wrong, were we who cant explain to it that its wrong...and the mistake is ours.
Anka showed me that while we, human, need to do psychoanalysis for years to
live the "here and now", the canine only can live this way. They ignore the time
lapse and the space dimension; so they dont understand, by absolute inability of
evaluation of these dimensions, the past and the future; thus, just live the present.
A dog cant associate, any aggression from we, to something that it has done in the
past, even that this past is from a little seconds ago, so:
Punish a dog to learn the lesson and never more repeat, besides of being anti-didactic is
completely ineffective.
Who already tried to explain to a child that is two or three years old, what is yesterday,
tomorrow, five minutes or next week? Can you imagine how difficult would be to a dog?
It was thereby that was born the method without punishment: Anka vom Haus Klem.
The only one animal able to obey is the man.
Obey is to do what we dont want to, because someone wants...or else!
To characterize obedience, it is absolutely necessary to fear a reprisal (in the future).
A dog doesnt obey! ...And never will obey to someone else.
Anka, so how can I train a dog to doesnt urinate on the carpet?
A It is impossible to train an animal to does NOT do things.
We, animals, only can learn how to do things.
Instead of training us not do it on the carpet, you have to
condition us to do it at the place of your best convenience.
If you were angry with a dog at the exact moment that it is
urinating on your Persian carpet, it scared will stop instantly. At the second time that
you take it on flagrant urinating, you had taught just: that you dont like that it
urinates, and more... , when it does it, and you are not looking at, and nothing happen,
it will learn to urinate hidden.
Your fantasy, Bruno, demands a companion, polite, brave dog and,
mainly that, when a word of order was uttered, it executes, for your pride, with readiness
and perfection. But, to this, you humans dont want to do any effort.
To you, intelligent and civilized humans, the good behavior is
nothing more than, an obligation, mustnt have reward.
The mistake is which deserve your attention and your worry.
When you are reading, studying or writing a very important
matter and I am by your side quiet and with a good behavior, I will not doing more than my
obligation. I will never have your attention, because your work is so important, that you
cant deviate your attention neither for a second.
But, if I take your shoes and run , you stop what you are doing
and was so important and run after me.
I think that you like when I take your shoes and run.
Thats right Anka, you are right! We just valorize what is not good. We just know how to teach what cant be done. We just learn what we mustnt do.
You know Anka, the intelligent humans spend just 80% of their life thinking, exactly, and about what they dont want.
A So Bruno, and there are some humans that study profoundly all that cant be done and then write it on a paper and call it of law.
Quite so, Anka, if I kill a person, I will have to be for 15 years in reclusion, but if it is the first time I have 50% off, and if I have a good conduct I still get a bonus of 25%. Anka, I have the impression that you know me much more than I know you...
A Of course Bruno, you are always busy. I have nothing to do all day
long...my bed is good, the food comes on time...my hobby is to stay looking you and trying
to guess what are you going to do next. So I already know a lot of things, for example:
When you take my collar is that you are going out with me.
When you get well dressed, I know that I am going to be alone.
When you say: Lets go to the swimming pool! That is what I
like more.
I just have problems when you try to teach me something!
At one time is of one way, on the other time is on the contrary,
then I cant understand you.
At one day you dont allow me to be on the sofa, on the
other day you allow me to be on the sofa just a little. When you go out I can be on the
sofa and nobody annoy me. I never know...
It is because I am a good person, Anka, and sometimes I give you a chance.
A Please dont get angry Bruno, but you arent a good
person, I think you are crazy.
I, when I dont like something, I dont like it
forever. When I like, I also like forever.
It is true Anka, thinking that I am being a good person, in fact I am giving you the uncertainly about the game rules. I never could imagine that to be good, in fact, is to mistreat you, is to take from you the correct notion about what I like and what I dont like.
I know! The difference between my reasoning and yours Anka, is that your reasoning is logical and binary, and mine, because of having knowledge about space and time, is full of variable like maybe, however, just a little, this time it is ok, two mistakes is more serious than one, and so on.
A Bruno, what is a binary reasoning ?
Anka, binary reasoning is the one that has just two possibilities of answer: yes or no / open or closed / positive or negative / I like or I dont like / I want or I dont want. I can say that the canine reasoning is the same of the computer reasoning: on or off.
A And why sometimes you get angry about me and dont be angry about the computer?
Anka, you get me crazy! Do you really want to know it? When I get angry about you is why I lose my patience.
A And what is patience?
Patience is what we, the humans, call of capacity of standing things that you dogs do and we dont like.
A So it is the same thing of be a good person?
Do you know that I didnt observed it? It is
true Anka, and more, if I be angry, because I lose the patience, in fact what I lost was
the capacity of argue. Finished my competence to explain. You won!
Congratulations, companion, you gave me a lesson of life that no human would be able to
give me.